Forgiveness is for Sissy’s (said no one ever)Here’s #3 Tools to Let go and Forgive

Do you ever get the sneaking suspicion that there’s something out there watching over you?

Do you go through your day noticing repeating number patterns - or - you hit shuffle on your liked Spotify songs, and you float through the day feeling like you’re starring in your own movie with your own specially curated soundtrack?

For me, all that woo-woo stuff seems to happen daily. Last night I got up for a glass of water and when I glanced at the clock it was 2:22 am, this afternoon, I took a break from cleaning my condo, and guess what time it was? Yep, you got it! 2:22 pm! I thought to myself, ok, this is a sign – stop – and figure out what the universe is trying to say to me. So, I did a little digging and the first thing that popped up on my Google machine said,

“Trust that everything is working out exactly as it's supposed to - let go and have faith.”

The Dalai Lama couldn’t have given me better advice. You see, my husband Luke and I are getting ready to head out on another big adventure and tick off another bucket list item. Our Gypsy souls and the warm weather are calling to us, and we are off to Mexico for the winter.

The dream has been to work remotely in a warm and sunny climate for years, and this is the first kick at the can. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t a little apprehensive about the usual unknowns of traveling to a foreign country and of course all the things I need to take care of before we go. Sadly, it starts with moving out of our cute, cushy little condo on the ski hill. Who knew this Van dwelling Gypsy would love in-suite laundry, a dishwasher, a soaker bathtub, and heated underground parking?!

I’m not sure about you, but in times like this when I am feeling incredibly raw and vulnerable - worry and insecurity start flooding my consciousness, and old wounds surface. And I find myself saying things like, ‘Not these again - those old wounds - gad I wish they would just disappear.’

Can you relate?

Because the truth is, every aspect of our life needs to be tended to, just like a garden. Unfortunately, those old wounds will only heal if you give them the love and forgiveness that they need to let them go. That’s where I’m at. Finding the space to forgive. My rational self says, ‘Great! It’s the end of the year, and it is time to take stock of where I have come, however, my shadow side is telling me to stay clear of any more hurt! There is so much pain wrapped around forgiveness, and although it may feel better to just cut the ties, it won’t help. Forgiveness needs to gently unravel if you want it to heal. Because there needs to be no blood lost in this journey, the only thing that you need is tenderness and patience.

Creating space and coming to terms with your past is the only way to an abundant life. With forgiveness, there is clarity, and that’s what we need if we want to move our business and our lives forward. You and I both know this is hard, so that’s why I have created a couple of must-dos when you are leaning into letting go.

1.       Pay attention to your surroundings, listen to your intuition, and figure out what the universe is saying to you. It is not a coincidence. (remember you don’t need to be an expert)

2.       Find a safe space and cry. Cry your goddam face off. It is scientifically proven that crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system which soothes the mind, releases toxins, relieves stress, enhances your mood, aids sleep, and relieves pain.

3.       Ask for help and be gentle with the process. Remember you’re not alone.

I’m curious, what tools have you used to let go of the past and forgive? I would be ever so grateful if you left a comment below.

I hope this helps alleviate some of your holiday stress and gives you a head start on the New Year.

Until Next week,

Stay Wild,

Much Love,

Kelsey Pew